One of the major aspects of turning your life around and becoming a more positive individual involves changing your self-talk and your mindset. This is something that is very difficult to do as an adult; something many of us find ourselves committing to daily, and sometimes failing. Creating a positive outlook is a lot of hard work.
But what if you already had a positive outlook? What if you had been seeded with that from a young age and didn’t have to work so hard at it? How much easier would it be for you to live a positive and inspirational life?
For those of us who have already made it to adulthood, it is unfortunately too late. The only way we are going to develop a positive mindset is to work at it every day until it becomes easier and easier.
We can provide that for the children in our lives though, and it could be one of the best gifts we can ever give to them, whether they are our grandchildren, our nieces and nephews, our sons and daughters, or just children we interact with on a regular basis via friends and family.
While embarking on your journey of positivity, you can also change the world by planting the seeds of positivity in the minds of the children around you.
Can you just imagine how great the world would be in 20 years if everyone did this today?
There are three ways you can help shape the inner voices of the children around you to become more focused on positive thought and energy.
- Your self-talk – Children see and hear the way the adults around them talk about themselves. They use that vocabulary when they get older and begin to critique themselves in the same manner. If you are always talking about how tired and fat and ugly you are, the children in your life are more likely to see themselves as tired and fat and ugly someday. If you are already embarking on a journey of change, then you have likely been working on this yourself for some time. All you have to do is pay particular attention to how you speak about yourself in front of children.
- How you talk about others – Are you critical of others in front of the children in your life? Do you talk about how frustrated you are by what the babysitter or your husband did when your children are nearby? Do you talk negatively to your mother on the phone about the other parents at school or your co-workers? Children pick up on everything you say and do, and if they overhear you speaking poorly of others they will learn that it is okay to speak poorly of others as well. As with my first point, this is something you should be working on in general if you are trying to develop a more positive outlook on life, but you should pay extra attention to it when there are children around.
- How you talk to the child – If a child hears that they are naughty, or messy, or disorganized, etc, they will become those things. If, on the other hand, they are told that they are good problem solvers, that they are doing a good job at learning how to deal with their emotions, or that they did a great job of picking up their toys, they will become more positive and helpful individuals. Those words will become their internal monologue and they will become the people that they think they are. Trying to focus on the positive things a child has done, even when they have spilled flour all over the kitchen or dumped an entire bottle of fish food into the fish tank, will help them to become adults who do not have to work so hard at developing positive self-talk.
None of this is easy, and you are bound to make mistakes. I can’t tell you how many times I have caught myself looking at myself critically in the mirror while she was watching, or complaining about others in front of my child, or gotten frustrated when she did something and let a negative comment slip out of my mouth. Overall, I work hard at being positive around her, and when I catch myself slipping into negativity, I automatically stop myself and turn it around to something positive. If I have been especially harsh I will turn to her and say, “I’m sorry, mommy shouldn’t have said that, it wasn’t very nice, was it?”
Embracing a positive mindset is a lot of work, and instilling one in our children is even more work. Hopefully, if we start early, we can help to raise a generation of children with love and empathy in their hearts towards themselves and others, simply by making good use of the power of our words.