“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul”. Judy Garland
As the joy, stress, and work from Thanksgiving and Christmas are beginning to fade away, a new day for love and shopping is soon approaching. That’s right, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I am sure you have already noticed the dramatic change in the merchandise of the majority of retail stores and TV commercials. The merchandise sales ranging from teddy bears, candies, flowers and diamonds to hammers and tool belts will now be the headlines of every marketing display.
I think we understand what February 14th represents to the retail industry, but what does it truly represent to you? Valentine’s Day is a time for reflection and confirmation of your love for someone special in your life. I chose the word reflection, because whatever you do on this day should reflect how such person has added value to your life over time. With regard to the word value, I am not speaking about monetary value, but any form of support that led to personal or professional growth in your life. The second word I used is confirmation. You want to confirm your loyalty and appreciation for the love they have shared with you. There is no better feeling than a verbal, sincere expression of love and commitment to someone. Oh, let’s not forget some form of a gift to look back on in remembrance of such a special day.
Now, let’s discover some ways to make your Valentine’s Day special and enhance the meaning of the day.
Dinner – Getting a reservation on Valentine’s Day can be extremely challenging. Often couples are left to deal with long waits and inflated prices for dining out. However, there are other options for resolving such issues. Have you considered checking into a hotel and having room service? Now, some people may misconstrue such an option as someone having a different agenda. However, I think it’s important to remember what this day is about, and spend quality time with that special person. You can still get dressed, as if you are going out. Such dinner will require a little more work on your part in getting the setting you want for the room, but remember the result will be a lifelong memory. The benefit of a private setting such as this one is the personal touch used to create the moment. A private dinner in a hotel room will not prevent you from going out in the town and enjoying other venues after dinner, but your evening would have been more private and intimate. Life only gives intimate shareable moments when you create them.
Going Out – On the night of Valentine’s Day, there will be quite a few venues to choose from to get out in the town. I think many people choose venues based on who’s there or bragging rights for the day after Valentine’s Day. However, it’s important to remain focused on why you are sharing such day with that special someone. Previously, we talked about reflection and confirmation as an important part of this day. So let’s think about using such concepts also for our night out. Is there a place nearby where something special happened like a first date, first kiss, and the like. If this is so, consider visiting such location. Imagine sailing out on the water for dinner under the stars and taking a casual stroll along the deck. Often river and harbor boats offer great deals on Valentine’s Day. Some museums may also offer a very romantic dinner setting with dancing. Such are only a few suggestions, however, whatever you choose make sure the event brings you together and enables you to appreciate each other.
Avoid Stress – If you are not careful, this day will be easily ruined even before it starts. Often holidays and especially Valentine’s Day can be filled with an abundance of stress and pressure. Like, the stress to find the right gift or the pressure to showcase who offered the best Valentine’s Day experience. However, there is no reason for an anxiety attack, if everyone simply celebrates the day for its true meaning. People often fail to realize that what is special for one individual may not be special for another. One couple may simply enjoy a quiet night at home cuddled up with a movie, glass of wine and engaged in a loving conversation. On the other hand, another couple may prefer a 5-star restaurant and to be chauffeured around town, while having drinks and dancing. Such comparisons are not intended to point out which couple is having a better Valentine’s Day, but rather it is important that however you spend this day, let it be consistent with who you are and not based on what others may think or say. In the end, it all boils down to creating something that the two of you will not only look back on but also makes you want to share more time together every day and not just one day out of the entire year.
As you go through life, there will be various opportunities to create and embrace memorable moments. Unfortunately, reality television and some forms of social media have given some of us the impression that memorable moments are reserved for the rich and famous. Don’t blow your budget to appear extravagant to others. Words have power, use them to express your feelings. Keep your eyes focused on that special person and let them see the spark in your eyes stem from a roaring flame of love from your heart. Listen with your soul to hear every word and carry it with you long after this day has ended.
Friendly reminder start making your plans as early as possible.