We worry. More than we should. Many people worry every day. While worrying does not really go hand in hand with the cultivation of a positive mindset or a new outlook on life, there are so many things for us to worry about.
Will I be able to pay the bills this month?
Can I afford to buy enough groceries this week?
Should I be saving more for retirement and my child’s education?
What if I lose my job?
What if something happens to me and I can’t take care of myself or my family?
None of these questions will lead you down a positive mindset path, that’s for sure. It is important to take care of your responsibilities, but how do you keep yourself from endlessly worrying about these things?
We can learn a lot from children in this respect.
My daughter wakes up every morning confident that she is going to have a good day. She is excited about what is to come. She doesn’t worry about not having enough food for breakfast, or whether or not she will have clothes warm enough for school, or if she will get to and from school safely. She knows that these things will just happen because they always do. There is no worry.
Yes, it is true that she does not have to worry about these things because I do it for her. I am the one behind the scenes making sure she has what she needs to get through each day feeling safe and secure, just as other parents do the same for their children.
But maybe I can learn something from her outlook on life. Maybe we can all learn new ways to look at the world from our children. We can trust that everything will work out okay, that ultimately things will be taken care of.
Yes, I have struggled through hard times in life where things didn’t always work out as planned or where I didn’t always have what I wanted. Yet, when I honestly look at my life, I have always had what I needed.
When faced with the threat of homelessness, I found an apartment just in time.
A kind stranger once put $20 on my windshield when I didn’t have money to buy groceries.
When I was unemployed and my significant other lost his job a week after we moved to a different state, I managed to secure two jobs in one day less than a week later.
Ultimately, no matter how hard things are, I always get things taken care of somehow, even if it is by the skin of my teeth.
I’m not a particularly religious person but I do believe that someone, somewhere is looking out for me. So why can’t I trust that things will continue to always work out as they have in the past? Why do I insist on focusing my efforts on worrying about what could happen instead of living in the moment and enjoying the amazing life I have in front of me right now?
We can learn a lot from our children. We can wake up in the morning confident that the day will be good. We can stop worrying about what might happen in a week or a month and focus on the good that is in front of us today, just like they do. We can remember that things always work out somehow. We can recognize our times of struggle as periods of needed growth, and remember that the rough times are also the universe giving us what we need. We can be positive, even in the face of great uncertainty, like our children.